When I read self-help books, I can observe the author's life up close and compare it with my own.

It feels like having an intimate conversation with the author at a quiet cafe, fully focused on each other.

That's why when people I think have lived well, or people I'm curious about, write self-help books, I always make sure to read them.

Because I can have deep conversations with them.

Of course, there are many books filled with things I already know or statements that feel obvious. But all of that is a matter of personal perspective.

I've simply become familiar with such content—someone else might experience profound resonance from that very book for the first time.

I received profound resonance from this book.

Despite having high self-esteem, I had grown tired of everything and wasn't happy. I was cutting into myself with self-blame, digging myself into a dark pit.

As I kept losing myself, I felt like I was losing trust in every area—work, love, friends, family.

To avoid hitting rock bottom, I didn't run away. I faced the pain head-on. It was incredibly painful and difficult, but I slowly worked toward recovery.

That's when I encountered this book.

Gratefully, I was able to love myself even more than before, and as I recognized and loved myself, everything in my life began to normalize.

I've read many books, but this was the first time I could feel the author's personality and character through the text. She communicates so well that it was easy to understand.

Every passage was deeply imprinted on me. For someone without religion, calling this book my Bible and the author my Buddha would not be an exaggeration.

I am truly grateful to CEO Lee Hayoung.

I'd like to share a few things that resonated with me.

Setting Your Subconscious to the Person You Most Want to Become

This feels like the core message of the book.

I'm someone who thinks a lot. When my mind and heart are healthy, good thoughts flow naturally.

But when my mind and heart aren't healthy, bad thoughts take over my entire consciousness even faster.

What comes before "thought"?

The subconscious.

Thoughts naturally follow the subconscious.

The subconscious becomes thought, and thought becomes action. Therefore, the most important thing is to properly set your subconscious.

When you do, you find yourself moved, grateful, and in awe of good people.

When your heart isn't healthy, you complain, feel dissatisfied, and feel anxious about everything.

Self-Trust, Recognizing Yourself → Trust in Life + Self-Esteem + Gratitude for the World

When I think about how well I know myself, I realize I don't know myself very well. When a third party tells me about myself,

I think "Oh, so that's who I am." I've been living under the illusion that the version of me others see is who I really am.

While reading this book, I spent a long time looking in the mirror.

My own reflection felt awkward. I was so sorry that I felt sad.

If someone asked whether I love myself, I probably couldn't readily say yes. Because my subconscious doesn't love me.

From now on, the person who believes in me the most will be me. I will recognize who I am now and live with gratitude.

This mindset is truly making my life healthier.

Not Recklessly Living Hard → Being Able to Enjoy

In Greek mythology, there's a character named Sisyphus. He's condemned to roll a boulder to the top of a mountain for eternity.

The end of human life is death. But rather than choosing death immediately, making efforts in our finite lives while gradually approaching death

is very similar to this character. However, unlike Sisyphus, we have the choice to enjoy life.

I moved to Seoul in September 2021. Nobody told me to, but I lived incredibly hard after coming to Seoul. I borrowed money from my cousin because I couldn't afford rent. I worked part-time jobs on both weekdays and weekends while preparing for employment. Then I got a job. I moved from a narrow, lightless room to a spacious apartment with plenty of sunlight that I'm satisfied with. (On a loan, of course.) And then I lost my way. It might seem enviable to some, but I think until recently, I was living the most boring life I've ever had. If you ask why I lived so hard, the answers that come to mind are: because everyone else is working hard, because I didn't want to fall behind, because I wanted to succeed. Even those reasons aren't deeply personal reflections—they're mixed with comparisons to others. That's my subconscious. So I think I had been "recklessly" living hard.

Now I spend a lot of time alone. This is the only precious time where I can truly become close to myself.

And every morning, I meditate to hear my own voice. I'm curious what happiness will come when I know myself best.

Then living will naturally become enjoyable, and because I'm living joyfully, joyful outcomes will appear.

The Illusion About the Future → Is the Future Always Above Us? Are Our Dreams and Goals Above Us? → The Truth Is the Opposite

This was the content that struck me the hardest—a peak moment of realization. I think it's connected to science.

You need to realize the truth about time. Time doesn't flow in the order of past, present, and future. Everything is connected and exists in reverse as well.

If someone on a distant planet in the universe were watching me today, I would already have turned to dust and disappeared,

or I would be completing my life's journey as the grandfather I'm destined to become.

The today we're spending now connects to the tomorrow that already exists and that we'll experience. Just as the ground naturally rises, we'll soon meet that future.

You don't need to climb hard to get there—if you simply enjoy, that future appears. We naturally arrive there.

This doesn't mean abandoning everything and living disgracefully. If you truly want something, just store it in your subconscious and live.

The subconscious will thoroughly and accurately unfold that vision in reality. You naturally obtain it.

So don't try to climb up forcefully—just comfortably descend.

If You Focus on What You Lack, You Become One Who Lacks and Even What You Have Disappears. If You're Grateful for What You Have, You Become One Who Has and Even What You Lack Appears.

If you crave and yearn desperately, you cannot obtain.

Paradoxically, this applies to people, love, wealth—everything.

Let go of attachment, love yourself, build your subconscious well, and just live joyfully. That's all there is.

What I want to say to myself who has lived well so far isn't "You did great" but "Thank you so much."

Thank you so much, Minyoung. Let's keep living joyfully.